Wednesday, March 28, 2012

The Ugly Side of Gurgaon

Today, somebody sauntered off with my handbag from the Huda City Centre Metro Station in Gurgaon. Emerging from the security booth I discovered, much to my horror, that it was missing from the X-ray conveyor belt. My first reaction was of incredulity. Such things never happen to you: it happens to strangers! You read about it in the papers, cluck and shake your head in sympathy and proceed to finish your cup of tea. You are bewildered as to how a person can simply walk off with a huge handbag right under the nose of numerous security personnel and closed-circuit cameras. For Chrissake, there’s a man looking intently at the X-ray screen and two men guarding the gate! Surely, you are meant to feel safe!

By the time I ran up the stairs with one of the security guards, it was too late. It could have been anybody and that anybody could have headed anywhere. A woman alone, apparently well-off, with a large handbag is an easy target. While I waited inside the Metro office, convinced that they will have the footage, so that we can look at the recordings and nab the culprit – I realized I was being naive. It’s never that simple. Madam, the tape is with Chattarpur station and you’ll have to wait till the evening. Why don’t you go to the Metro Police station instead and lodge an FIR in triplicate?

It’s never that simple, silly!

I was worried sick. I had just lost a whole lot of cash, a bunch of credit cards, my ATM card, my mobile. And what’s worse, I had just lost my house keys! My daughter was all alone in the apartment! What if that cad decides to check out my house? To be frank, the metro staff in that shift was quite courteous and even offered me money to get back home.

On my way back towards my apartment, I was battling a mother’s worst fears. Thankfully my daughter was safe but worried sick for her Mom.

It’s painful, having to call up your bank, get all the cards blocked, get your SIM card blocked. My beautiful new Android, I didn’t even have the time to mourn for its loss.

But the worst was yet to come. I had yet to file an FIR.
 
This was my first visit to a police station. Who wants to go there? Don’t we all avoid it like the bubonic plague?

As I was sitting, trying to explaining that I had just lost a whole lot of things, the policeman decided to interrogate me instead. As if I had come to the police station at 2.30 in the afternoon to spin a yarn and play hide and seek with them. This is Gurgaon, handbags don’t get lost, are you sure your memory has not gone for a toss! My character, my intentions were being questioned by that leery bastard sitting right across. Ogling at my cleavage, my arms – as if I was some freak show who had just stepped in for an item number.

The constable decided to play Sherlock and insisted that he accompany us (my husband and I) to the Metro station, to get to the bottom of things! By the time we reached, the shift had changed and there was a new batch of security at the station. Their behaviour was even worse than the police constable’s! They assumed I had come to accuse them of theft, which was far from my intention. When I refused to put my sling bag on the security belt, they shouted at me. I shouted back, loud and clear – that they were public servants meant to protect us and not question our integrity. A woman had just lost her purse. Instead of being understanding and extend a helping a hand, you scream that an FIR should be lodged against her husband because he rushed past security check, to come to his wife’s rescue? Why such apathy? I get blatantly robbed and how do you react: turn around and suggest that I have absolutely no proof that someone stole my bag? Make me read the sign that they are not responsible for my loss. Suggest that I am concocting a cock and bull story!

And what’s worse, the police chap was nodding in agreement.
 
I saw the worst of humanity and they saw the worst of me – a woman sputtering with rage, banging the table and screaming they had no right to treat her like this!

Had I walked in with my bunch of security guards, chewing pan and boasting that I have half a dozen murder cases registered against me, everybody would have stood to attention and saluted me. Ironically an honest, law-abiding citizen is a freak in this country - taken for granted and treated like shit.

I was not allowed to write the word “stolen” in my FIR; I had to write “missing” instead. I was constantly told that some poor soul in a fit of forgetfulness must have walked off with my purse! That I am hallucinating and unnecessarily creating a ruckus!

At that moment, I knew how it feels to be a woman who has just been violated. How it feels to go to the police for help and be greeted with ridicule instead. Her character questioned, while the constable absent-mindedly scrapes his lunch off his teeth. Today, I felt helpless.

If an honest law-abiding, tax-paying, educated citizen has to face this, what hope is there for the poor?

Is it a crime to be a victim? Is it a crime to expect justice? I know you will never find my handbag and its missing contents but the least you can do is treat me with dignity. Gurgaon Police – Suraksha, seva, sahyog my foot! Learn some manners instead.

Today I lost my faith in the system and I know it’s not getting any better. I was supposed to meet my childhood friend after two decades, look what I got instead! My husband is changing the locks, as I furiously punch keys to express my rage.
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176 comments:

  1. That is so unfortunate. Gone from an X-ray scanning machine is just terrible misfortune? And the police... pfff *sigh*

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  2. That is insane!
    :x
    I can't even find the words to say how outrageous what happened to you is. Thats why Delhi is fodder for Crime Patrol episodes.. the police and the public servants behave like that..criminals would love to commit a crime.
    Im wondering how many other women would go through such nerve-wrecking encounters everyday!

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  3. Terrible. Really terrible. Seriously I have no words for the apathy which the Police has shown. No wonder Police is the last place people want to go to. They are supposed to be there for protecting us and make us feel safe. Yeah...right.
    It is really sad that you had to go through this.
    Sharing this everywhere. Hopefully some top official will read this and feel ashamed enough to change a few things in the system. But then maybe, I am being overoptimistic.

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  4. Shockingly sad. Difficult to say if the system is wrong or we are wrong people to live in such a society.

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  5. I really don't know what to say-whether to empathize with you and hurl a couple of select words of abuse at the people who made you go through this nightmare. Because in this case, I'm as helpless an ordinary citizen as you are, waiting my turn to be reduced to the same state some day, seething with rage and resentment. We're holding BRICS summits and on our way to becoming a supposed 'global superpower' and whatnot. But now I feel all of it is a sham. As long as the common people, civilians don't get to be treated with due respect and dignity, don't get their grievances redressed there's really no point in calling India a 'developing nation'.

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    1. Nobody will hand you respect on a silver platter Samadrita. You have to demand it, fight for it.

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    2. Yes true. It is true not only in this case but either you are in a male dominated society (Being in India) or you are in IT industry....

      If you have mobile number which belong to Kerala and you lost in Howrah, then neither Howrah police will lodge an FIR not Kerala police.

      Try for passport in Bihar/Jharkhand. You will never get it without paying 1500 bucks as if you did crime and it's the fine for that.

      Police to akhir police hai

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  6. very depressing experience, the police or any government machinery in India is just like this... God only save this country..

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  7. Pathetic. Police often victimises the victim that in the end people lose faith in what is supposed to be a social cushion of sorts. Wonder what they do to those who come over to complain for crimes against woman.

    Sorry for what you had to go through. I understand the state of affairs back in my village but the mighty and shiny Gurgaon... thats surely is a surprise. Bharat desh mahaan

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    1. Gurgaon is at crossroads. On one hand we have these posh localities, whose residents travel business class and on the other we have a corrupt administration that's stuck in a time warp. A police force that's just a bunch of village oafs who forgot to grow up.

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  8. Purba,

    I can very well understand what you are going through. May I suggest that you meet Police Commissioner and narrate your experience. Also write a letter to Metro Chairman giving full details. Wish I could something more than this.

    Take care

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  9. I can do nothing more but sympathize with you. Police is nothing more than a bunch of bastards, who wear bangles.

    I was traveling from Pune to Mumbai, when my wallet was stolen.It had cash and a few credit cards and PAN Card. Thankfully, I still had my phone.

    I would never have thought of filing an FIR, in the first place.But,for getting a new PAN card, it was necessary. I had to do it. And I believed in the system, to some extent those days. So, wearing a Jhaansi-Ki-Raani logo on my chest, I waled into a police station, all alone.And that, i can say, was the worst mistake ever.

    First, the officers refused to speak in Hindi/English. Marathi manoos will watch Hindi movies, but won't speak in Hindi.

    Second, seeing a girl in a police station was their high of the day, and they made sure that I spend a considerable amount of time in the vicinity. Afterall it is not everyday that a girl walks in. They all had havas-filled eyes which I can never ever forget.

    Third, somehow I convinced them to write an FIR. They would write, but it Marathi. So I have no idea what is written on that sheet of paper.

    Last but not the least, The bastards wanted money for writing an FIR which atleast, I don't even understand coz it is written in Marathi.

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    1. Demanding money to file an FIR? This is ridiculous. And to think they do it everyday and get away with it.

      Weren't you dying to give them two tight slaps!

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    2. What happened to you is ridiculous and this is what can be expected from these bastards...

      Demanding money for lodging an FIR is common, not only in metros but even in small cities.... i too have experienced that.. when i lost my mobile and had to lodge an FIR in order to get the number blocked... the silliest question they asked was where you lost your mobile.. when i answered their first question... the next was why have you been there.. do we need to ask those muddle headed people where to go and where not to??

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  10. At least U Succeeded in lodging FIR, purba..!
    those S*holes only accept Tehreer in such cases, that too with a speical mention "Missing".

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    1. Apparently they just filed a DDR and refused to write the word stolen because it then becomes a cognizable offense.

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    2. You know Purba, If they file an FIR then they have to log, investigate and report the matter, officially. Hence, they refuse to do it. I'm so sorry you had to go through this humiliating ordeal.

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  11. The System was beyond repair, and redemption was long lost before I let dementia seep in.

    Now I smile, I sigh, and I forget and probably smile again.

    Dear Android, may you find your owner back like the Hutch puppy, my heart goes out to you.

    Ma'am, the phones nowadays have inbuilt GPS devices, and given that you were carrying an Android, it must have your gmail credentials too like Google Location et al. I suggest that they be used to track it down along with our Dear Police doing its work?

    Regards,
    Blasphemous Aesthete

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    1. Easier said than done Anshul. For Airtel to launch it's tracking service, I have to lodge an FIR with the Police station. And the request has to go from the Police station.

      On your own you cannot do anything.

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  12. I once visited a Police station in Pune, at around 2 in the afternoon, just to get directions to a place because that was actually the landmark that was given to me, and no one else in that area could help. The treatment I got from the cops was appalling. All the cops at the station (there were 5 of them) were lying down on three beds in two separate rooms, one of them was even shirtless and asleep (but maybe he was on a night shift so I won't judge). No one was interested in even talking to me, they just said go out and ask someone. But what struck me hard was that what if this was a similar situation and I was there at the time to lodge an FIR. Eventually, an old man who looked like a caretaker or gardener of the place came to the rescue and knew exactly how i could get to my destination, but either way not for a minute did it feel like the police works for the public.

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    1. You know what? We should highlight such cases. The Police is meant to protect us, help us and not treat us unwanted crap.

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  13. Big Hug Purba! Wow! I could never imagine that someone walked off with a bag, from a security check! :O

    Just glad you, and T are safe. I never believed in the system, and will never believe there could be any good that will ever come out of it.

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  14. Its no different in b'lore. A thief broke in our house (bachelors) & took the purses & mobiles, as we woke up we saw him escaping. When we went to the police station the police (who spoke in only Kannada) shouted on us for our negligence & forced us to write 'missing' instead of 'stolen' even though we insisted that we saw the thief. In addition they charged a "fees" of Rs 300 for accepting the complaint. We were such fools we even left the knife touched by the thief untouched @ the house expecting that the police will come for the investigation & collect the fingerprints.

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    1. I am planning to highlight such cases in new blogpost. It's our police that's in dire need of policing.

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  15. This is so scary..if the police behaves like this in a supposedly well-developed place like Gurgaon what do we expect of the rural areas?
    No wonder people shy away from filing FIRs, when the ones in power act like this, what are we supposed to do?!

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    1. You are still supposed to go ahead and file a police complaint. Don't let these oafs scare you away.

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  16. Its so unfortunate. I am awestruck after listening to the whole story and still trying to figure out how could someone simply walk away with someone else's bag in front of a group of security personnel.When you say you were considered a freak by the police, I am not surprised.Having quite a few experiences with them, I am sure they won't care about your bag among the thousand other cases they need to pursue, no wonder only a missing complaint was filed!
    You can break your head on this and knock the doors of the higher officials but unless you have a relative/close acquaintance at the highest level, even moving the file from one table to another will cost you more than what you have lost.Its sad, but this is the ground reality everywhere in our country.

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    1. You are a nobody till you have a neta or two in the family tree. Till then pay taxes and bribes.

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  17. Horrible! But another example to prove how incompetent the police is & that too of NCR specifically. Every time our system fails us, we feel frustrated and then life goes on. I hope you get your stuff back. I was thinking don't you feel even the metro staff could have done it?

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    1. Not really. But CISF certainly could have been more courteous and helpful.

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  18. Its shocking!! Instead of help you had to go thru pathetic attitude of police,shame on them.

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  19. Really Sad,i wish some miracle happens,and somebody sends ur lost bag by post or courier,(it happened in bollywood flick SIRF TUM).U shared this incident,now lots of people shall express there concern and sympathies with U.U r still lucky that u could lodge a DDR in police station.But all are not so lucky, leave the lodging a complaint aside,no one even express solidarity with them.They just cry foul,and walk away home helpless,sans any sympathies sans any hopes.This hopeless soul is the common man a.k.a aam aadmi,no credit cards,no android,no atm cards,just a few hundered bucks is his solomon's treasure

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    1. Being poor is a curse in this country. You are treated no better than trash.

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  20. I have shared this on FB... and I belive we should take this up to the police commissioner or someone who atleast can look into the matter... Gurgaon police especially looks like some idiots hired off the streets..

    Let me know if I can help....

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    1. Gurgaon could certainly do with an educated Police force.

      And thank you so much.

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  21. Welcome to reality. When we are governed by netas half of whom have criminal cases pending and a department under them for their whims and fancies and a horrible state of negligence of all the goverment machinery, you can expect only this. The rot has set in slowly and steadily while all of us wake up only when we smell the rot and it was your day today and most of us including me would face some day or already have faced. Lucky bloggers we are, we rant on cybersphere! Imagine the majority of hapless section of our population who would only shiver to enter a police station.

    And also who are policemen? They are also the same men from our own society. What you met with is just the reflection of our society. We have become predominantly insensitive society with split personality.

    Having said this, still their are few good men in the government departments. Hope the numbers would increase some day. And yes, let's just believe in miracle and hope you get back your bag.

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    1. But this rotten reality feeds on our apathy.
      Btw my handbag is frolicking in your city. Are you sure, it was not you who took it? :p

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    2. Thank God! My trip to Delhi got postponed :P else i would have been a suspect ;)

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  22. Horrible behavior by police!! I do not know what to say about this.. I am shocked!!!
    I am sorry about that. I hope you get back your stolen things soon.
    Please do take care.. Please relax..
    Hugs from Czech,
    Bhavana

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  23. Really unfortunate that this happened!

    May I add that, from what you saw today, what in your opinion could be done better? Agreed there are multiple problems but what problem should be solved first? Any solutions that you can think of?

    At least then we, as a community, will be able to ask for change!

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    1. I am thinking along these lines and would much appreciate suggestions from you.

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  24. I am not going to sympathize. Because that won't be of any help. This is our system. And I bet my posterior that while they are accusing law-abiding citizens of being crooks, the actual crooks get away.
    These mindless idiots don't realize that the real criminals would always be inconspicuous, the one who would never create a ruckus.
    And while they are neatly doing their job of being a crook, the policemen are busy questioning your honesty.
    But then hell, this is our system. Wonderful, ain't it?!

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    1. Never resign yourself to your fate Dimi. You have to fight it, claw at it. It's an attention seeking bi^%$#@. You just can't take it for granted.

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  25. I am so sorry this happened with you Purba...and that makes me feel a bit more comfortable about being a tad restless about just letting my bag go through the security box while they frisk us behind curtains in another. I always wondered if anyone at the other end really cared who was picking up what!

    It is pointless to expect the police to do anything...I so feel the frustration you have expressed and shudder to think how I would have reacted. But then you are stronger-keep making life difficult for those dumbheads pretending to serve and I hope you get your stuff back through some means.

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    1. But that's my point. If I am handing over my belongings for the sake of security, how can the Metro staff turn around and say that my missing bag is not their responsibility!

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  26. Mera Bharat Mahan.. Sigh!! Most Police are just crooks with Uniforms.

    Anyway not sure if this will help but give it a try.

    http://www.complaints-india.com/Government-Dept-Complaints/Police-Complaints/

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    1. Thanks Sapna, bookmarking it for future use.

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  27. Shocking but more shameful I'd say. Something being stolen is not as shocking as the shameful behavior of the police.

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  28. I am so sorry to hear about what happened Purba. But I am not surprised at all.
    You had to pay money to lodge a complaint; my brother had to pay money to withdraw a complaint because police started harassing his friends instead of going for the investigation.
    So the system is rotten beyond repair irrespective of the city and state. Just pray that this doesn't happen again...

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    1. Can you give me details? I am planning to highlight such cases in a future post.

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  29. Shocking...I felt too bad that the police questioned you instead, and treated the way you described...Such policemen should be made to stand and questioned in front of News channel's camera, live. Shame on them..Shame on our system...
    This is real India... corrupt and hopeless...

    I have left all the hopes of our system getting improved..Lets accept this fact and let us be careful next time ..and being responsible for our own safety is the only thing we can do..

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  30. that's the sign of weakening democracy in the world's largest Democracy. Every day lakhs of Indians feel humiliated & tortured by the way they are handled in their own country. No one is born a naxalite... they are created every single minute 'coz of this failed system apathy. Feeling bad for you.. :(

    Weakest LINK

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  31. Seriously Who joins police force in India ? Those who could not get quality education, were not good enough to do any other job and had 2 options - become a criminal or join police/politics. Police is legalized in India so many of them pay bribes and join Police force with intention to recover the money from people. Its not just a question of Apathy of policemen, they are in bed with criminals. I know of a case from sector-7 in Gurgaon where a person got back his stolen maruti 800 back, later he got to know from some sources that he got his car only because police and criminals could not make a deal on how much share policemen would get.

    In another incident, a women's purse was stolen from train near Gurgaon in braod daylight, money, purse, id card's etc all were lost. They had local political contacts which may make you think that police would have done something but even after 1yr , effort from police was 0.0, after 1yr they made same statement which made at start - asking the victim to close the case.

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    1. The deeper you dig, the murkier it gets. And to think we rely on them to protect us?

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  32. Shocking and still not really shocking. DO we expect any better from them? Tweeting and retweeting and sharing on facebook.

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  33. The fear of this happening is always there in my mind when I put my bag for scanning at the Metro stations. I am so sorry to hear this. It must have been such a terrible feeling to stand there helplessly. The police sometimes needs to be feared more than the criminals. They can make life hell in cases of theft or worse, which is why we hesitate going to them. Hope there were no personal photographs on the phone. We are the helpless citizens of an apathetic nation.

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  34. I felt a sense of dejavu reading this, including the not allowed to mention the 'stolen' part of it. Of course they told me a cock and bull story of how it will put me to trouble (I will have to pop in and out of court, come all the way from Kerala etc). So I had to make it a 'missing' item, lost because of Mmy negligence. How is that? Robbers are protected and we the innocent have to take the blame of the loss incurred in addition to the loss itself.
    I was questioned too as if I had committed a crime coming to Mumbai without my husband and for being in the police station with my elder brother-in-law. "Who is he?" they wanted to know. "Why are you here, where is your husband?" Yup, they wanted my family history. But thankfully, the man was decent enough not to leer and was courteous enough with the questions. Thank God for small mercies. But they did make me feel as if I was under suspicion for being away from home on my own and gave me the "is this guy really your brother-in-law" sort of looks. You have your bag snatched off you and all they want to check is your own background. Yup, I was wearing no mangal sutr or sindoor and such proclamations of my married status.
    If this is the treatment we educated people get, I shudder to think about the poorer sections. That's exactly what I repeat too.

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    1. WTF! For Chrissake, they are just the Police and not moral police! What gives them the right to question our character and who we choose to be with!

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  35. More than the loss it is the aftermath which is scary to deal with guardians of law! Yes, we live in a democracy in true sense where everyone has a right and no responsibility:( Very unfortunate, Purba!

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  36. Yes. This is India, and these are Indian servants of society.
    It's true, we always cluck our tongues, and frown, and say some cynical comment about the govt and feel self-righteous, but its only when we are face-to-face with even the miniature version of that reality, we realize the horror.
    What we see are either the good things of our country, the iceberg above the see level, or some ripples going on in sea. But what we don't see is the vast, huge chunk of the iceberg, beneath the sea level, majority of Indian population living in situation worse than this, living in lower depths. Delhi is a flourishing stench pool of crime.
    I'll only say this: You saw it, you bore it. Now you know it's real face.

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    1. And the real face was Goddamn ugly.

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  37. Dear God I Am sorry for you and I feel your anger … but one couldn’t have expected any better from our Police .. It’s our fault Purba ..just because we are honest and law abiding and we follow all the rules we expect courtesy and security in return .. How remiss of us isn’t it !
    Am sharing this .. if not anything it will at least warn people to be extra careful !

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  38. first of all, plz offer my sympathies, as someone who got her stuff stolen(not at a metro station though) and had to go to a police station for filing an FIR, I can understand....the police are a very unhelpful lot....and i say this when i stay in the best neighborhood in delhi which has all the IPS officers as residents and so supposedly, the police station staff here are much more courteous!!

    secondly, theft in scanning machines has become quite common, sorry to say...it has!! and especially when the crowd is huge....the security on duty are there only to see the bags thru scanner...thats where their duty ends!!!

    the metro staff is quite courteous, i have found out from my interactions....


    but all said and done...gurgaon is one plc Im having second thoughts on living or even going to work!!!

    http://sushmita-smile.blogspot.in/

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  39. A totally not fun experience! I think until faced with it, we little realize how much our so called justice systems fail us everywhere. Apathy towards everything except their own pockets and ends is something that is the norm and sarkari naukris are only for power and paisa, be it the littlest of babus who can wreck havoc or policemen whose only job is to monotonously stare at security screens. There is simply no one ready to listen let alone take some action. I have heard cases in which the thieves post back id cards and cr/db cards, so hope you get that envelope atleast if not everything else.

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    1. Ah,, the joy of being an ordinary citizen of this country. To stand in queues, get harassed for bribes, thank your stars that by the end of the day, you are still alive.

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  40. Being a Victim is the worst crime in this country, if u dont have backing of politicians, and police. Police is worst than those criminals who committed the crime.
    Not only police, pray to God that we r never left at the mercy of Doctors, Judiciary.
    Pls try and involve some higher police official or alike and hopefully u will get all your stuff back. These guys know very well which snatchers operate in their area and they also take their share.
    God bless

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  41. Oh my God! The nightmare of losing your handbag and then being treated like this by the police. It is really so sad and horrible. Feel very very sorry for you and what you had to go through.

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  42. I am sorry, I won't be able to individually reply to your comments. I have a headache that refuses to go, a rage that simmers. I am aware, spat out words of outrage, will not make a difference. These are just empty words. The system will continue to take us for granted, we will continue accepting shit, we will crib and continue with our lives.

    As I went through your comments, I realized that police apathy and ineptitude is not an exception but the norm. Perhaps it's a ploy to keep us away. Ironically we fall for it. We decide to keep mum, joke about it. But let me tell you, this Frankenstein we've created feeds on OUR apathy.

    Speak up, speak out against injustice. Don't let the system get to you. We have to overcome it.

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  43. And I am not worried about my missing handbag. I know it will not come back. But I wish to be taken seriously. It's not about me, it's about us.

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    1. Purba- Its a feeling I experienced the same way- right under your nose its gone and for me being an NRI here at Doha making all cards fresh and new was real pain in the ass:)

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    2. i am so sorry Ma'm for this unfortunate event happened with you. i can understand the trauma you must have gone through. similar thing happened with one of my friend who lost her purse and the worst thing was she recognized the person who stole her stuff on footage but police refused to do anything to find that lady on various illogical and some nonsense backgrounds and crap stories they created out of it. it was just that they were asking my friend to bribe them to find the bag!

      Ma'm what happened to the footage?
      did you manage to get a first look of the person who stole your bag?

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  44. So sorry, Purba, not because you lost the bag, but because you had to deal with the rotten system. It is always better not to enter a police station all our life. Better forget the bag, pay a tribute to your android and be in peace. As for the security and police, let them rot in Hell...

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  45. Extremely unfortunate. Appalling attitude from the cops. Unfortunately, that is the state of things in this country. Aren't we the only country to address cops as "Sir" while cops across the globe address its citizens that way.

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  46. Did you get to see the CCTV footage? If not seek that using RTI.

    Put all these events in a formal complaint and send it to the respective SP's office.

    Note down your FIR number and periodically ask for its status in a RTI application, those idiots need to work too!

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  47. i feel bad for your sake girl..it's awful and downright unapologetic of the so-called custodians of law to be behaving like goons. oh wtf, of course they're goons meant to help the politicos,not us.

    like you said, a law-breaking richie rich corporate would've gotten more respect (undeserved at that) than what the good guys do.

    and then they hunt you down for the rest of your life when some frustrated citizen files an rti. just such a f****d up world this.

    hope things get better and brighter here on for you =)

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  48. Really really really know what you are feeling right now.............been there done that albeit not for a missing bag.....for my missing salary which my ex boss refused to pay.....though it was a civil matter and was directed to the court. The policeman was pretty much the Gurgaon fella's cousin I think...while all I wanted was just that I be heard............and he wanted to only see through......if you know what I mean....I swear murder was on my mind that day......not one but 2....the boss and the bossy cop!!!!

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      So did you finally get your salary?

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  49. Just so you feel slightly better, this has happened to me at the JFK airport in New York City, where my brand new Iphone got whacked off the security belt right under the noses of supposedly the most alert security system in the world.
    And i got treated like a potential terrorist.
    I will never know how a woman who is violated actually feels, but I know what you mean.

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      And I'm sure they could have provided you with CCTV footage. Did you ask for it?

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  50. These animals are descendants of the demons of yore. Usually their actions catch up through karma.

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  51. OMG! terrible! and such behavior from so called protectors of law. thats why we say kuch nahi ho sakta iss desh ka :( have to beware at such security checks from now on.

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  52. Sad to read all this.
    Nothing much has changed in the Police department. They may shout and claim on FB, twitter about how better they are now, but truth is they are still old bastards.

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  53. Ohh.. This is sad. My frn stays at gurgaon too and she had written about a similar thing on FB. Really, until it happens to us, we think that the crimes are happening and are invisible.
    It must have been a task to get back everything in place!!
    Bad bad situation! Seriously!

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  54. I feel your pain Purba..But your experience is hardly shocking. At the risk of coming across as unsympathetic to your plight, I would even say you had this coming. Living in India, and especially in NCR, everyone has something like this just waiting to happen. You really have to be alert at all times for such things - in everyday living, in dealing with govt agencies, investment or financial institutions.. Some previously unknown scam or con job is just around the corner.

    It is a drain to be at a heightened state of alertness all the time, but you don't have a choice. You have learnt your lesson, and you shall be better off for it.

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    1. I have learnt my lesson Abhinav. My wallet and mobile will always stay with me. And I"ll have to stay off the Metro for a while. It will be difficult for the CISF staff to forget the woman who screamed at them.

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  55. I just blogged about my story after having read yours:

    http://darkandcomic.wordpress.com/2012/03/29/woman-on-the-lose/

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  56. A very unfortunate incidence and such things happen in our country very often at all public places. Even briefcases & suit cases go missing (stolen?) at the airport inside the security zone!How this can happen is anybody's guess.

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  57. Really sorry to hear about your unfortunate experience! And the treatment at the hands of the so-called "protectors of society" makes it even more shocking!

    I know a lot of people will say that something like this is totally natural in Gurgaon but the point is till when can we sit back and accept it like mute spectators!!

    And I'm pretty sure that if the same thing had happened to someone who knew the "commissioner and SP", the treatment meted out would have been completely different...

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  58. Appalled!!!! My house in auarangabad was once robbed. The police were at the house for random enquiry and checks. And guess what, one of them stole my uncle's watch!! How do we know that, becuase we never gave up on them, and stalked them till the 'thief' returned the watch! Totally depressing!! ridiculous!

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  59. Oh, that is just terrible. It must have been a truly traumatic experience. I wouldn't wish it on anybody. I'm totally appalled at the behaviour of the authorities. It is thoroughly shameful, but definitely not uncommon across the nation.

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  60. Hey Purab.. Just I gone thru your blog and it is so picturesque.This made me to go back in time and picturize the same thing which happened to be me at ur place.Ya ya u heard it right.. in the same Gurgaon..
    I will tell you..leave alone police,even security guards in company act as if they are FBI/CIA agents who have every rights to say whatever they feel..!
    I am a guy from Bangalore,where police use to treat victim as a victim..though they could not find back your stolen/missed every time, they will have some courtesy towards poor soul..I liked the way in which Jayanagar 4th block police behaved with me in December,2011 when I was in shock after losing brand new Samsung ACE..!! Police made me feel normal.
    Hopefully you will have a good news soon from Haryana police..LoL
    Vinayak..
    Bangalore[But now rotting in Gurgaon]

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  61. First off, I must say sorry for coming here for the first time to say-Sorry. As a newcomer to the Blogosphere, let me bemoan my fate. It’s only a couple of days ago I came across your blog and I absolutely love it. You are such an amazing writer with a great flair for writing. What happened to you today is so unfortunate. You have got the umpteen rights to be outrageous for what happened to you which you have showered in abundance in your post. I do apologize on behalf of my community for whatever happened to you. It could have been so easily avoided had the people who are responsible done the right thing in right perspective. But now, I know you have had enough solace and one more from me won’t matter much. Our policemen, particularly lower in hierarchy are overstressed and many hails from our own villages and poor background. One of my friends commented above that those who join the police are either undereducated or were not good enough to do any other job but to become a criminal or join police. Can you tell me, who has to take the blame for that? Such a brilliant person you are, no more elucidation required right? I’am sure you can make a nice article out of this. Please do it for me. Another friend’s comment about his experience inside a police station is self explanatory to the appalling condition the ordinary policemen live in our country. Forgive them. Do we support the idea of dismantle the police system and become anarchists? Free gun license to all and say go save you. Mam, someone has to join the police, no? Our society often thinks of policemen as someone who are there to die and read the news about police who have died in the line of duty (Mumbai attack or Chhattisgarh holocaust, yesterday in Gadchiroli ), in the same manner as you said in the introductory paragraph “cluck and shake your head in sympathy and proceed to finish your cup of tea”. Let it be. But by telling this, Iam not at all justifying the policemen who are responsible for putting you in that terrible misfortune. You have already showered a lot of abuses on them. Still you are free to approach the seniors in the hierarchy for which Iam sure, you will be heard amicably. Don’t disturb your creative head any more. Let us hope, somewhere someone trying to get a taxi to reach you and return back your handbag which she/he took mistakenly. As you rightly said in your profile-loves pocking fun at everything especially herself- just take it as an incident for future and inspire and enrich us with your brilliance in writing as I could do no more than this but to pray for you. By respecting the dignity of this space for comments- God bless you.

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    1. I appreciate you taking time to apologize on behalf of your colleagues. We are all aware of the limitations faced by the police force. That shouldn't be an excuse to treat an honest,law abiding citizen like a common thief.

      I do not intend to take this lying down and will, in fact, continue to 'disturb my creative head'.

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  62. Right to Education, Right to Food...

    i think much needed is Right to Live with dignity... in India. Human beings dignity has no value in this country in current scenario

    Very Unfortunate, But still i wont be doing anything as you know... it happened with you, not with me, i'm comfortably sitting in my chair sipping my cup of coffee reading and commenting on your blog...

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  63. very unfortunate of what happened to you. system is like that only. it hurts a lot as the most honest tax payers are all left out to our fate. take care.

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  64. BLOODY RIDICULOUS...
    where are those people who keep shouting hoarse that india has advanced so much MY FOOT.. the basic things are not done right..

    I can totally understand your anger and GOOD you shouted at them , I sincerely wish something can be done and people actually go about doing something about these kinds of behaviour rather then wasting time on things that only get them in news.

    I am sorry to hear about such a thing happening .. SAD SAD situation

    dont know what to say
    Bikram's

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  65. Truly sympathise with you, the last I had interacted with police, was from inside of it as arrested student leader , and they were at best of behaviour with three hundred tough engineering students outside. Don't know how they will treat me as a lone man. This flows from too and feeds on civil tolerance, when we find no respect for country's topmost soldier, embattled with a corrupt political cohort, a senior police officer declared insane by government and shrug our shoulder and continue our way. When we see one person exempt of airport security check, not rank and are not agitated enough, it seeps down. shock and more than that despair

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    1. Heartening to hear your story Saket.

      And I do agree that our security force is an over-worked, under-paid lot. But that doesn't give them the license to treat us like crap.

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  66. All I can think of is, "What else can you expect in this f****** nightmare of a country we live in? It gives you an illusion of safety n then turns you upside down & shakes you to the core. Better are those countries where you know what you are up against."

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  67. The worst thing that can happen to a right thinking citizen of India is to have to seek redressal or justice from the legal and the law and order system. Politicians claim that citizens will panic if they come to know that the armed forces are in shambles. No, they won't. We already know what state they are in. The police cannot protect women from being rapes, cannot prevent thefts from taking place, and cannot act once crimes have been committed. I have been through this experience a few times, and once the rage and hurt fades, all one is left with is utter disregard and contempt. I hope that this collective contempt will one day yield a more mature and compassionate system. Take care, Purba, I can only imagine how violated and let down you and your family must be feeling.

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  68. awful! cant even imagine going through something like this. and the stares and the ulta chor kotwal ko daate attitude really sucks

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  69. Horrible!!! Sometimes things back home just make you want to climb the tallest of cliffs around and scream your lungs out!!!

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  70. that's really bad. I'm sorry for you. I've never been 2 a police station to lodge a complait yet. And if this is the way they treat, I wld defenitely go to any exten and show them the other side.

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  71. It must have been terrible...the unaccountability of public servants is at it's nadir,& talk of manners or humanity ? it would be laughable if it was not so tragic.

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  72. Sorry to hear abt this Purba. Its Horrible. Take care, i can imagine how terrified and violated you and your family must be feeling .

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  73. I don't think the treatment's any better if you're a guy. I was stopped for talking on the mobile phone while driving. I knew I was wrong and wouldn't have tried sneaking out of it. I was all set to pay the challan. But to my amusement, the constable kept dilly-dallying - asking me to wait at one place, then the other and then the next. I understood what he was trying to do but I was adamant that I would not bribe this chap and instead pay the full fine (Anna Hazare syndrome). This kept happening for a good 20 minutes. At which time he told me I'd need to drive him to the place where his boss was because the challan book was with him. But since it was rush hour, he "couldn't just leave the HUDA City Center circle to the other 3 constables." I needed to wait more for the traffic to ease out. My school friend, who I was meeting after a decade, had been waiting for almost an hour now. Consequently, I had to give in to the constable's "demands" and asked him "kitna loge". He did a quick (well, not so quick) calculation - his salary, my salary, the fine - and it came out to be 500 bucks. I chanted Anna Hazare's name in my head and bribed my way out - incidentally, also the only way out of that deadlock.
    Gurgaon's a classic case of perceptions of a certain class of people that the "have" classes should not (they've moved far away from "would not") mind shelling out a few bucks every now and then. Who the "have" classes are - well, the jury's out on that but my bet's on the class who are neither public servants nor the affluent land-selling-farmers.
    Hope you find your bag :)

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    1. That's where I have a disconnect with the Anna Hazare movement. It's power that makes a man/woman corrupt. Wrest it away from him. Make the system transparent. Make it easier for us to file complaints.

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    2. That (transparency) with anti-apathy injections/shots - for you've to be concerned enough to file a complaint. We just blog and, if it's the weekend, garner online support too. I can't imagine the fate of those who cannot/do not blog/tweet/etc.
      You'll blog when you find your bag, right? I just dig anticlimactic endings :)

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  74. That (transparency) with anti-apathy injections/shots - for you've to be concerned enough to file a complaint. We just blog and, if it's the weekend, garner online support too. I can't imagine the fate of those who cannot/do not blog/tweet/etc.
    You'll blog when you find your bag, right? I just dig anticlimactic endings :)

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    1. I just wrote about it :-)

      But we can extend our hand to people who have no access to social media, right?

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    2. Wow! Miracles do happen :) #AbbasMastan stuff this! :D
      Did the guy call you after reading your post or the TOI report?

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  75. Five days back, my iphone was pickpocketed while entering metro at kashmeregate metro station. I am still to recover the shock. I feel security staff has a conniver, who saw the items and in a flash hid the bag in fraction of seconds. You have to strongly implicate all the bloody staff on that schedule at that time. you have to stress that irrevocably. Lodge a court case on them.
    for mobile mail this 15 digit IMEI no.written on bill, or box to cop@vsnl.net

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    1. A DMRC claims thefts don't happen in it's premises? What bull crap!

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  76. I feel for you... Just yesterday I lost my iPhone on Central Sec metro station... I even tracked my phone's locations also... and that is probably the guy's home(in Karol Bagh)... there's a police station just 5 min away... I went there and told them the situation... instead of paying any heed... they told me to go to Rajori Garden station cause the theft is in other jurisdiction... Now it agonizes me cause I know where my thief is... it's right in front of my screen and I can't do anything about it... :|

    btw this is that dreadful place

    http://sahilkhanna.org/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/photo-2.jpg

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    1. I can relate to the feeling frustration. Having to deal with authorities who refuse to co-operate. Why don't you shoot off a complaint to an IPS officer? Perhaps they will be more sympathetic?

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  77. This post caught my attention simply because I've just returned from Gurgaon after viewing a movie and shopping in Sahara Mall with my wife. My shopping bag (which was bought from Big Bazar for Rs5) was put aside by the security check fellow with an imperial command that I should get out. I went to him too close and asked to his face: What's the problem? He said I was carrying something dangerous. I opened the bag in front of him, took out each thing, and asked "Which thing is dangerous?" All the while he had ignored the security check! People were just walking out with their bags which were not properly checked by the idiot who was dealing with one pickle bottle in my bag.

    When the system is run by idiots you can't expect anything better.

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    1. Why didn't you report him to the management? Obviously he was deriving his cheap thrills at your expense!

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  78. Lemme tell u the worse...Police are usually accomplice.I learnt it is the hard way,when two years back my mom's bag (loaded with cash ;))was snatched during broad light .I had a fractured foot then and ran after the bikers but the police guard on duty refused to go behind them.
    Then later at the police station, they just lodged a regular complaint instead of a valid FIR and all they were interested to know was how much cash we were carrying - "Madam paise kitne the?"..I think they asked this 10 times in a span of 10 minutes.So Gurgaon or Delhi , all is same.

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  79. That is so atrocious. Losing a bag is bad enough and you had to go through the torture of these police and security people who don't have a sense of responsibility or decency. It is extremely saddening. :(

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  80. an unfortunate incident...
    But I would take this as 'one' incident and won't generalize it to assert that police are awful.

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  81. It happened with my dad as well. I was too young to understand the things. his cash was taken away from a bag. but the way they treat you is horrible. Mumbai has another story of harassment by Traffic Cops. I have often read about administration short of traffic cops. and the city population is rising every day. What if every single vehicle runs over these cops when they harass you? leaving them lifeless? Maybe that can clean up entire hierarchy. No doubt, India would be soon next Somalia or DRC. Sympathies for the handbag. But best policy should be never to own credit cards in life. They always bring you pains! :)

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  82. What can one say to such incidents! I feel like I just saw a movie...as you said "this just happens in movies, right?" was my feeling. It's really unfortunate!!!!!!
    How can they - 'public servants' - behave like this!

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  83. Yes, I know how you must feel, when my house was burgled a couple of years ago (i had moved to Mumbai and had a house in Pune)the police refused to come and when I insisted sent one of their petty constables along. It was only when I called a friend, a top ranking bureaucrat that the entire police force landed at my house. Even then instead of properly investigating the matter they questioned me as to why I had left jewellery and an expensive camera in my locked flat. Unfortunately in India the term public servant is a misnomer because we the public are the servants and those who are meant to serve us are not just inept but are a corrupt and uncultured lot.

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  84. This is so horrible! I've spent my life hopping across Chandigarh and Mumbai and truthfully, even though the attitude of people isn't very different, Mumbai police can be much nicer. I had my cell phone stolen on the train last year and the police were very courteous, the inspector even gave me his personal number for emergencies. Whereas in Chandigarh, we've had so many issues with the cops, especially traffic cops, more than once my dad has carried accident victims to the hospital in his car while the police looked on twiddling their thumbs. I feel sometimes that I can't live in any other city in our country apart from Mumbai. I'm more worried moving to a different city, than a completely different country. :( What a shame.

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  85. For a change, I'll tell a story that does not involve police.
    Two years back, my bag was stolen from the library in my own college.
    I lost a couple of library books, notes, calculator, headphone and college-id. Fortunately, my wallet and cell were in my pockets.
    The librarian, the person-in-charge-to-look-after-bags blamed it on me- 'Why carry books in your bag?' 'Why carry expensive gadgets in your bag?''Why bring your bag to the library?'. I think they missed the more appropriate 'Why trust us with your things?'
    In the end, I was made to pay for the stolen books, to the library.
    That's the common behavior of all people in power, all those who are supposed to be responsible in this country, not just the police. Perhaps this is the 'unity in diversity' thing they talk about.

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  86. Right under the noses, a bag goes missing and nothing can be done. That is PATHETIC :/ .. I remember dealing with the police when someone hit my car (not my fault) & the whole FIR procedure was long.

    Rather they wanted me to let the others off.. pehchaan nonsense. Bribery.. tried everything in vain and when they knew I wouldn't budge they let me off. I lost faith that day! this whole tamasha is ridiculous :/


    P.S. first timer here...great blog :)

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      P.S Glad you liked :)

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  87. It isn't just about the police. Any government organization people treat you like dirt and won't help you a penny as long as they don't get any something-something. They can be horribly rude and brute and throw all their life's frustrations directly on your face.

    They need to learn something about customer treatment, satisfaction and delight from their private counterparts.

    The media would have been salivating to hear such a story. :) Maybe, you should have gone to them. However hypocritic and sensationalistic they are, it is the best way you can get back at those who hurt you.

    You may not get back your purse or your money or your ATM cards, but atleast some satisfaction in giving back to them. Atleast, next time, they won't be so rude to another poor victim.

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    1. I did go the media and my travails got published in the TOI - http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2012-03-30/gurgaon/31260123_1_metro-station-metro-police-huda-city-centre-metro

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  89. Our complete assessment of our being a civilized nation is based on GDP growth. Many of us who go through horrifying experiences like yours keep wondering what is so civilized about us. It would take years before we emerge as a safe, responsive, equitable, just, fair and respectable society. Every little that any of us writes or brings into open helps move towards that goal.

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    1. I am in complete agreement with what you've stated. And it has to start with awareness, refusing to put up with bull-shit and fight for justice. Nothing comes easily in this country.

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    2. Purba - my sympathies. Can we try to form some sort of a forum and take it up with the authorities? I'm not talking about this single incident but all such causes.

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  90. From your account their only concern was that you don't blame them. Not an iota of concern for your shocked state of mind. Is there any point in time when the handbags are in security and you can’t see them? If yes, that ain't right. Makes one wonder if this is the beginning of yet another scam. Commiserations.

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    1. Offense was in their defense. Ganging up against the victim and making her feel like the accused.

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    2. And it also gives them some lecherous pleasure if the victim is a lady!!

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  91. i stay in gurgaon and hate it
    i lost faith in police ags back...................

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  92. Hi
    Saw your coverage in TOI. I know what happened was unfortunate but u with ur popular blog have done so much to create awareness against the cops. Now if we could take it to the next level we could have a Purba Ray movement

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    1. I'd love to see all of you pitch in. We have to make it happen Sandy!

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  93. Sheesh, losing the bag was one loss and to be treated like this on the top of it! Almost like the victim is treated like a culprit..

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  94. Shocking ! but i think this is what we get from Indian Police all the time. Be it Pune or Mumbai or back home i found them all same. It seems after joining the police force they join a new religion called "Indian Police" where they remove the word called "Humanity" from their book and replace that with words like Corruption, bribe etc etc. Sorry ! for what has happened.

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  95. This is terrible :( ... a week back, number plates of nearly 40 cars were stolen from my area in Mumbai, and when I asked them to lodge a complaint as this was not some small issue, everybody told me, Police is useless, so Helpless I felt, today Number plates, tomorrow what not? We are just not safe anywhere.

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  96. that certainly is an unfortunate incident and then to be treated like that (phew).... but Thank God your little gal was safe...

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  97. I have written it before, and I shall write it again: In the U.S., you contact the police if you want someone killed. (The police there are more than happy to act as judge, jury and executioner.) In India, you contact the police if you want someone beaten up, or if you want NOTHING to get done, as the police are genetically INCAPABLE of doing ANYTHING. I am sure that the police officers whom you saw did not even stand up, because standing up requires them to do something.

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  98. hmmm u gotta take care of ur things in India or any other place in the world...mayb in a few countries you might get your stuff back...all this talk abt Police is this...police is that is useless....they were like this and will remains so.

    i guess most ppl r used to it...u really have to be high up in the hierarchy by hook or crook for things to happen...sucks but it'll remain so till we have a revolt...and given our record thts not gonna happen till a new generation who's fed up comes along...right now we have just a bunch of meek 40+ ppl raised by their parents who spent quite sometime under the colonial era

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  99. Hi Purba,
    I had read tweets about your stolen purse but had no idea about the mental torture you underwent until i read your blog now..
    I have no words to say.."i understand how you felt" would be insulting..All i can say is that its high time we put an end to this apathy..

    I am not a blogger, hence ive never been able to share my experience..i had also seen this inhuman side of our 'people's protector' in mumbai when my debit card was stolen and around 2 months salary was withdrawn from it!! The police had refused to :
    1.listen to me
    2.file an FIR
    I was shooed away from the police station citing that it was me who had lost it and demanding cctv footage is hence not necessary..
    Leaving no choice,I was 'forced' use influence and ONLY then was an FIR filed..i did manage to recover my stolen money and the thief was caught but the point here is that being a lawful citizen , i was treated like a contagious disease..my fir was not filed as the station wanted to present a 'clean' record for the arean under their jurisdiction..

    the same people who once shooed me away..actually came back with a glass of cold water!! this makes me conclude that if you dont have influential people as friends , you will never get justice?? How can i teach my younger brother values of honesty and integrity when i was myself forced to take help from others to get my work done!

    Its time we do something..Its a burning desire to get rid of this helpless situation..If there is a way out, I am willing to give my full support.

    Regards,
    Sonam
    sonamgreat@gmail.com

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  100. I was going through your old posts and read this today.
    Sorry to hear about this unpleasant experience.
    I have had three such experiences with the police and police stations after a road accident, and a after being a victim of theft twice.
    None was pleasant. And at no time was the police helpful.
    Time has healed my wounds and I now think back and laugh it off.
    I hope you too will be able to do so after some time.
    May be some day I will relate the details which are still fresh in my mind though these happened to me between 30 and 40 years ago.

    Hope you have recovered by now and have a new set of cards and documents.
    Regards
    GV

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    1. I wrote this comment before reading your next post.
      Glad to know that you got your purse back.
      You are luckier than most victims of such experiences.
      I have had three experiences with the police and it was a hatrick of sad experiences.

      Regards
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  101. Really unfortunate that you had to go through all these. Hope things are alright now.

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  102. This is nothing new in India. We all are the victims of the system. The attitude of police towards victims is cruel. This is something we read daily in newspapers. It is always happening in some parts of the country. The problem is we tend to get on with this. People forget. They let go and try to settle again into their comfortable lives. Everyone does that. After all, it is someone else this has happened to. As long as we have that attitude, nothing will ever change. It didn’t for the last 65 years.

    Divya Bhaskar
    MyGrahak.com

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  103. Really sad.... the apathy of the authorities is glaring, and there's really nothing one can do about it, because they are never going to be held accountable for their behavior.

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  104. we should all learn to answer them back the way you dide.Should tell them their rightful duty.
    Appreciate ur blog
    ~Harsha

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  105. Oh and I stay in Gurgaon.would love to meet fellow bloggers as you.I am new to this place and dont know if other bloggers have a meet or something.If yes then do call me and if no then lets have one.

    My blog:- CHAOS(Harsha's pensieve)
    http://maglomaniacs-chaos.blogspot.in/

    ~Harsha

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